Today is Thursday, April 21, 2011. There are 17 days left till we celebrate Mother’s Day. At least that is what those in the retail world want us to think. However, I feel a little different about Mother’s Day.
Two years ago we lost our Mother to the ravaging disease of Diabetes and all the complications that accompany it. It is not just the passing of my Mother that makes me sad, but the fact that we did not
celebrate life “hers and ours” often enough is my concern.
I have been working with a life coach and spending time on Self-Care and what
that means to me and how to be better at taking care of myself and enjoying life more. My sister and I are very different people and we share some of the best attributes of our mother and also some that we wish were not there. Let’s suffice it to say that our Mother was a very busy woman, who did not take care of herself the way we wished she would have. She never really stopped and it was one project after the next with her; without time for celebration, pause or reflection.
In working with my coach and learning how to pay attention to myself and my
needs, I am finding more joy and happiness than I have known in the past. You
know, we used to say we all have the same number of minutes in every day, but
now I am even learning to celebrate some of the seconds in each day.
The last twenty years of my mother’s life were very tough. She suffered and few knew just how much. Before she was sick she had 60+ years that could have
been filled with more celebration. She had so much to offer and I wonder how
different her life would have been if she had fewer things on her things to do list and more fun activities on a “fun to do list.”
My mother gave and taught me so much. She was an incredible human being.
If she were still here, I would spend time with her being selfish, just the two of us, enjoying, exploring, being self-absorbed, finding balance and together celebrating life… hers and mine!
Cheers!
Becky
